8 Tips to a Civilized Mother’s Day

8 Tips to a Civilized Mother’s Day

My girls and I circa 1998

My girls and I circa 1998

The Mother’s Day celebration was started nearly 150 years ago by an Appalachian homemaker named Anna Jarvis.  She organized a day to bring awareness of the poor health conditions in her community and called it “Mothers Work Day.” It has now become a hugely commercialized, money making event.

 According to a survey on Statistic Brain:

  • The total amount spent on Mother’s Day cards is $671 million.
  • Average amount of money the average person will spend on their mother is $126.90.

 Retail establishments are not the only ones cashing in.  According to the National Restaurant Associate, more than one-quarter of Americans will dine out and another 10% will get take out or delivery.

 Mother’s Day is meant to be a day to thank the person who gave us life — or if you were anything like me growing up, it’s a day to celebrate the person who reminded me on a daily basis that she could also take that gift of life away!  However, Mother’s Day can also lead to some interesting etiquette questions, such as:

  • Do I have to buy my step-mom a gift?
  • Do I have to celebrate Mother’s Day with my mother-in-law?
  • Do I celebrate Mother’s Day with my mom or my children?

 Here are a few tips to keep in mind;

  1. Although Mother’s Day is to recognize our mothers, it is also a time to remember and thank the other women in your life who you have a special bond with, an aunt, a neighbor, even a friend’s mom.
  2. If you have not done so already, make a reservation if you are planning on taking your mom out for brunch, lunch or dinner.
  3. If you are taking your mom out to brunch, a popular choice, remember to leave a tip for the wait staff.   Even though you stand in line and get your own food, you need to remember the people who bring you your drinks, take away your used plates and pick up after you.  They deserve a tip.
  4. Stepmothers count.  Some stepchildren have a great relationship with their stepmother while others do not.  Either way, you should still acknowledge her.  You could send her a card, or maybe take her to lunch.  It does not even have to be on Mother’s Day, especially if you are spending the day with your mom.  Also, you are being an excellent role model for your children by putting any ill feelings aside.
  5. If you want to spend Mother’s Day with your mom and your husband wants the two of you to celebrate with his, then you should try to compromise.  You can either spend half the day with your mom and the second half with his, or you can divide and conquer.
  6. Give mom a gift that she wants.  Whatever you decide to buy her, make sure it is within your budget.  If your family buys a family gift make sure that it is something that everyone can afford.
  7. Carnations are generally given on Mother’s Day because white carnations were Anna Jarvis‘ favorite flower.
  8. Lastly, don’t wait until Mother’s Day to tell your mom that you love her.  It always means more to call your mother and tell her you love her on a normal day than it does on a birthday or Mother’s Day when it is expected. 

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