Expressions of SympathyJules Hirst
This weekend I co-ordinated a memorial service for a young child although a celebration… this was a celebration of life. It was a beautiful service, the parents strength was incredible. But, there were moments of akward conversation which is understandable since people seem to struggle with what to say or how to act when someone has lost a loved one. The worse thing you can do is act like nothing has happened. Here are a few tips to help you.
Â As soon as you hear about the loss you should call or send flowers but, it is important to let the family know you are thinking of them and share their sorrow.
If you call you may want to say “I’m Sorry” or “My Sympathy to you”, “he will be greatly missed”.
- Share your own story by saying ” I know how you feel” or ” I remember when.….” keep your expressions brief.
- Tell them they need to be strong for the family
- They need to stay busy
- Be there for your friend or relative not only during the memorial (or funeral) but, also in the future.
- Remember the deceased birthday
- Offer your assistance by cooking, cleaning, etc.